You ever had a big heart and then one moment someone or something messes it up.
I was that person, that would help someone in need because they wanted to "Start a new" Even though I didn't have that much I still was there for that person.
HERES HOW IT STARTED:
For someone that I didn't even known that much asked me and my husband for help to come live in Hawaii. My husband was very close with this person and he told me it was up to me to decide. Like a nice person I am I said "yes". She was excited jumping for joy couldn't wait till her and her child come and live with us. She thanked me for making the decision. I was feeling all warm inside cause I was helping someone in need. Me and her we kicked it off good because we both liked the same thing, the same hobby, etc. We both knew what we wanted in life. I started making Youtube videos and she wanted to do right by her child.
Ending of October they finally moved in and we just moved into our new place in the central area of Oahu. We had Halloween together as a family and we did lots of family activities. I let her use my car to go around and do her errands and go find a job. Even let her and her son go do things they want to do. She told me and my husband what she wanted us to help her with and that's financial and her child. Her child was a picky eater and I tried my best to not let that happen. So I cooked and clean every day and night while being pregnant and watching mines and her kids. I cleaned her room also when she never asked. My house was always clean no matter what. But her room smelt like WET DOG and that was disgusting but I never say anything to her about it because I would think she would be embarrassed of it.
Around November my husbands co-worker had a little party at his house. When we got there she started drinking and my family came also. That night she got into an altercation with my brothers girlfriend calling her a "SLUT" in samoan. She didn't even know that my brothers girlfriend is Samoan so she knew what she called her. Yes guys she was intoxicated so she didn't know what she was doing or saying. My brothers girlfriend was ready to fight her. How I knew about that situation was that my dad came up to me and told me what happened. With me and my husband being embarrassed we had to leave early and apologize to my brothers girlfriend for her actions. My husband was so UPSET with her that the next day he gave her a BIG lecture. She was all upset and embarrassed that she suggested to fly her child back to the mainland to stay with her father. I told her "no" because to be separated from a mother and her child is very sad and hard for both. On Thanksgiving day, me, my little family, her and her child went over to my family house to spend Thanksgiving with them. Mind you my brothers girlfriend does lives with them. She had the courage to go up to my brothers girlfriend and sincerely apologize to her. Here comes the part that all changed.
December her family came down to Hawaii to spend Christmas with us. We had a family dinner night out and it was a good night. Everybody drank and talk stories. During the times they've been in Hawaii me and my husband couldn't spend that much time with them due to the fact my husband had work and I was always home with the kids and pregnant. Maybe only one time we went see them and had a pool day at their hotel. The person and her child went stay couple nights at the family's hotel to spend as much time with them as possible before they go back to the mainland. I can honestly say this though I wasn't interacting because this pregnancy was kicking my butt and I had a nasty attitude so I kept it to myself even though I knew it was rude not to interact. Came Christmas time my family invited her family for Christmas but they never showed up and I was honestly upset because it was holiday and usually both families would get to know each other. What changed I guess? was when I took my car privileges away from her because while she was working and making money she spent foolishly on things. Me and my husband was thinking why isn't she saving. We gave her advice many times about saving her money so she can get her own car. But instead she spent on something else. Like for example: "concert tickets in LA" So I made the decision to take that away from her. I guess she was upset about that and hasn't talked to me like we use to. The ending of December her family went back to the mainland no GOODBYES nothing with my little family.
House was awkward cause me and her would always be in our room. I would still be making dinner for everyone and cleaning even her mess. They're were times when we asked her for watch our babies because we wanted mommy and daddy time specially on our anniversary. And maybe yes that's what got her upset because we had her watching our kids so much times but we did make sure that everyone was fed so we bought like pizza or I would make dinner. One night I got upset with her cause I made rice and made spaghetti in a can and spam for dinner. But she insisted for us to buy pizza again. so I told my husband that we just take our kids with us. Yes I was upset but I did wanted to take our babies out even though my husband had a bad day at work.
March came and it was still awkward in the house. You know you have those instincts or vibes that you know someone is talking shit about you specially when they are living in the same house? I had those feelings. I told my husband so he had a talk with her about it. That day we had a "TALK" We both sat down on the couch face to face had a talk about what's been going on I said my peace saying If she was talking crap about me to anyone. She replied "never why would I talk crap about you for." And like a dummy I am I took her words. HERE COMES THE BIG BIG TURN....
Couple weeks later, I started cleaning and my boys ended up going into her room and on her laptop. O scolded the boys and went on her laptop to close all the window tabs. Once I started closing it all, there was one website (Facebook messenger) that mentioned my name in it. BOOM! to find out she was talking crap with her FATHER. I won't say all the messages but basically they were saying I was "disgusting" "nasty" "jealous" called my husband "pussy whooped" and above all what took the cake was "GO LET HER TAKE THEM SHE DOESN'T TAKE CARE OF THEM ANYWAY"
All I could see was RED. I called my husband up told him about the messages and sent him it to just in case he didn't believe me. He called both if them and ripped them a new one. The disrespect. I've never ever disrespected her FATHER, never, OH and another thing about him and her are DISGUSTING! but I ain't about to say it cause that's WAY to BIG to talk about. That day I ended up going my parents house cause I was heartbroken, shattered into pieces cause I'm a nice person. I don't know when it all went left with us. But I also know now of the FATHER what I know to AVOID him. My husband kicked her out of our place and she ended up going to on of her relatives until she goes back to the mainland.
Till this day I have to watch my back around HER and the FATHER (who we cut ties with) will we ever go back to the way it was? Maybe not.
